“Destruction can be beautiful to some people. Don’t ask me why. It just is. And if they can’t find anything to destroy, they destroy themselves” – John Knowles
the art of self war
At times, it seems as though we have our own strategies and tactics set in place to go to combat with ourselves. We knowingly choose the wrong foods and ignore all of the red flags that lead us in to unhealthy relationships.
In addition, we often remain in undesirable work situations and self sabotage ourselves by making decisions that are not in our own best interest.
Why do we do this? We hear our intuition speaking, but ignore it and do what we shouldn’t anyways. We deliberately hinder ourselves as if we don’t believe that we can do better. We hear that inner voice saying, don’t do it, but do it anyways.
Then after we fail to listen to ourselves, we beat ourselves up and say that we knew we shouldn’t have done what ever it was we did.
Is it possible to stop this toxic self behavior? Is it possible to stop shooting cannons at ourselves?
your own worst enemy
I feel as though I was influenced to adopt the unhealthy thinking of being my own worst enemy. It was first introduced to me by my mother. I’m not going to make her feel bad about it, but what if she were to have told me to love myself and embrace who I was instead of telling me I was my own worst enemy?
For years, I told myself that I was my own worst enemy and so many other people confirmed it. In my head, everyone was their own worst enemy. How has this truly affected us all?
If I identified with being my own enemy, no wonder why it’s so easy to self-sabotage myself. Being my own worst enemy is now my excuse for it and now I have justification for emotionally harming myself.
In a world where everyone is seeking happiness, It’s time to end the war! No more World War Me. If you procrastinate, indulge in activities and substances that harm yourself or do things that hold you back from being your best self, you could be at war with yourself.
Failure and letting yourself down doesn’t feel good. It’s time to build yourself up and become your own best friend to win the war! It’s time to start making small incremental steps towards conquering the madness.
Put self discipline measures in place that prevent you from picking up the cannon! The first thing you need to do is change the way you think! You can no longer afford to be your own worst enemy!
Pay attention to yourself and learn your own behaviors. Listen and identify thought patterns you have that may be holding you back or encouraging you to do things that are not good for you.
If you find that you are telling yourself something negative, cancel it out. Remind yourself of all the reasons why you are worth more. Remind yourself that negative thoughts are only going to lead to you self-sabotaging yourself.
Train your inner coach
Work on changing your self talk. Instead of telling yourself that you can’t or won’t accomplish something, tell yourself that you will. The key is to not be so hard on yourself if you don’t accomplish whatever it was you were aiming for. Practice makes perfect, train your coach to remind you to get back up and keep trying instead of telling you that you knew you couldn’t.
Relentless, repetitive self talk is what changes our self-image.
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