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Are you disconnected from your intuition? – How to start listening to your intuition.

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Are you disconnected from your intuition?

 

What is intuition?

According to the dictionary, intuition is having the ability to have complete clarity about something immediately, without the need for conscious reasoning. It’s something that is instinctive to us all, but there are so many times where we find ourselves in situations asking, “Why didn’t I listen to myself?” 

We are not listening to ourselves because we are over stimulated and distracted with too many day to day tasks and responsibilities. Is the system designed to keep us disconnected from ourselves? If God is described as being omniscient and perfect in knowledge, and we are made in his image, does this mean that our intuition is a sign that we are perfect in knowledge as well?

How do we even begin to truly listen and obey our intuition?

Becomming Aware

My intuition has always had a very strong presence for as far back as I can remember. I’ve always been deeply connected to myself. Being an only child, an introvert, artist and a pisces, I found many moments where I was alone and connecting with myself.

Solitude allows you to cut out distractions and raise your level of self awareness. Your subconscious is always gathering information and investigating situations with out you even knowing. When it detects something isn’t right, it alerts you. We often ignore it because we can’t put our finger on what it is trying to tell us or we don’t trust it, but when you get that feeling that something is wrong, just trust it.

In a documentary about Malcom X, his team said that the day that Malcom X was killed, he told his team that he could feel his death was coming that day. His intuition gave him a clear understanding of what was going to take place. I’m sure it wasn’t a matter of him not caring, but more so along the lines of praying there was a chance that the feeling would turn out to be wrong.

As a child is to do as a mother tells him or her to do, we should do as our intuition tells us to do.  Imagine having the ability to have complete clarity in everything you do, all of the time. The beautiful part about this, is that you already have this gift, all you have to do is learn to obey it.

Solitude

There is extreme power in solitude. If you are constantly being over stimulated and distracted then how do you expect to give your intuition full attention or recognize it when it is alerting you?

tap inward

Meditation allows you to learn both your body and your mind and according to neuroscience, being creative is also beneficial.

Creativity is like strength training for your brain. When you are creating, no matter what it is, you are generating constant ideas within your brain and critically evaluating them. 

Now imagine the benefits of creating in silence. Just you and your intuition.

BE AWARE

Pay attention to yourself and learn your own behaviors. Learn where you carry stress in your body. What does your body feel like when you ask yourself certain questions?

Are you completely aware of self?

 

 

Those who are silent, self effacing and attentive become the recipients of confidences.

-Thornton Wilder

 

 

 

The beginning of your next level journey – How to find inspiration.

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The beginning of your next level journey

The Cambridge English dictionary describes the term “Next Level” as a better, more advanced, or more successful situation than before. The problem is that a lot of us just don’t know where to begin in order to reach our next level of potential. A lot of us want to make significant changes in our lives, chase our dreams, advance in our careers, start our own business and improve our relationships, but lack the motivation to really take those first steps towards achieving what we desire. 

What is holding you back from reaching your next level? It could be: fear of failure, fear of success, self – doubt, fear of judgement or a number of things holding you back. You are not alone. There are a number of people in this world who have dedicated their lives to helping you overcome obstacles that may be standing in the way of you reaching your next level. 

Back when my grandparents were growing up, they used to say that “it takes a village to raise a child”. This originated from an African proverb and meant that it was the responsibility of the entire village to look after all of the children and it was not just the parents responsibility to look after them. It meant that the entire community of people were responsible for creating a safe, healthy environment for children so that they could flourish and be able to realize their hopes and dreams. 

The definition of raise in verb form is “to lift to a higher position or level” and when you raise a child, the parent doesn’t just stop raising them when they turn 18. They are usually there to provide love and support for the rest of that childs life. As a community, we should be looking out for one another, lifting each other up and providing a safe space for everyone to realize and chase their hopes and dreams. It shouldn’t just stop at children. We should be helping each other, inspiring each other and lifting each other up. 

 

“If you want to lift yourself up, lift up someone else.” – Booker T. Washington

 

Nourishment

 

Nourishment is necessary for growth, health and remaining in good condition. Nourishing ourselves doesn’t begin and end with food. In fact, the dictionary states that nourishment is food or other substances necessary for growth. So if you think of nourishment as something you need in order for something to grow than why aren’t we taking time to nourish our dreams, mental state, emotional state and spiritual state?

Some may ask, how do you nourish your dreams, mental state and emotional state? It’s easy to see that prayer and practicing faith can be a way to nourish your spiritual state, but how do we nourish our minds?

It all leads back to your community. 

Community doesn’t have to be taken in a literal sense such as your neighbor or the people who live on your block. Your community is, the people you surround yourself with, those you have a fellowship with and groups of people that share common interests with you. 

Are the people in the community you have created for yourself creating a safe place for you to flourish? Are they encouraging you to reach for that next level of success or are they skeptical of your potential?

One way you can provide nourishments for your dreams, mental state, emotional state and spiritual state is to seek out those people who are dedicating their lives to helping you overcome the obstacles that are holding you back. 

Maybe you need to change your community. 

Pastors are great examples of those who have dedicated their lives to helping you grow. This article is not about religion, but as I work on my own spiritual growth, I have added a few pastors to my community. One of them being TD Jakes and the other is R.C Blakes. 

One thing I learned from TD Jakes is that there are some people who cannot go to your next level with you. This is why it’s very important for you to take a good look at the people around you and analyze if they are helping you grow or helping you hold yourself back. 

Some people only know you for the level you have been on and don’t believe you have what it takes or can’t see you reaching a higher level. Some people don’t have the confidence within themselves to reach higher levels therefore, how could they possibly see you reaching a higher level?

Yes, as a community, we want to help each other rise, but sometimes in order for you to rise, you need to step away from those who aren’t willing to do the inner work necessary to make necessary changes in their lives to reach their own next level. 

Leading by example is a great way to show them that it’s possible, but sometimes in order to break free from whatever is holding you back, you need to surround yourself with only those who inspire you.

 

your assignment

For the next few weeks, I want you to take a good look at the people inside of the community that you have built for yourself. Are these people providing you a safe place for you to flourish or are they being pessimistic of your growth?

Next, I want you to add some people to your community who have dedicated their lives to helping others grow. You may not personally get to meet them, but listening to their perspectives on growth will help inspire you and help you regain your motivation to reach or push harder for those things that you desire in life.

Your assignment is to seek our five inspirational people to add to your community who will provide you a daily dose of inspiration. I say five because I would never suggest anyone to follow the beliefs of just one person. It’s good to hear different perspectives, relayed in many different ways. 

Listening to different perspectives may help you see things from different angles or one person may explain something easier than the other. You don’t have to agree with everyone’s perspective either. You take what resinates with you and switch to the next.

 A few favorites that I have added to my community who have dedicated their lives to helping others overcome obstacles that hold them back and who have helped provide me with the nourishment I need to help keep me motivated and inspired are:

Pastors such as T.D Jakes and R.C Blakes.

Inspirational speakers such as Abraham Hicks and Teal Swan.

Clinical psychologist Ramani Durvasula and Life coach Stephanie Lyn.

Spiritual nourishment

Explore what you believe and why you believe it. Religion can impact the way you see the world. Make sure that what you believe in really resinates with your heart.

Mental nourishment

Treat yourself with kindness and avoid being your own worst enemy at all costs. Taking care of your body physically can help improve your mental state. Learn to quiet your mind when needed and learn different ways to manage stress.

emotional nourishment

Remember that how you feel is valid. Make connections with others who inspire you to stay positive. Find a way to keep yourself emotionally grounded and seek help from a licensed therapist if you feel like what your dealing with is too much to handle.

 

 

 

“You’ve got to Nourish to Flourish”.

 -Unknown

 

 

“Kirazlane Inc would like to be apart of the community you are building for yourself because we are dedicated to helping others reach their next level.”

– kira lane

 

The Art of Self War – How to stop self-sabotage.

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“Destruction can be beautiful to some people. Don’t ask me why. It just is. And if they can’t find anything to destroy, they destroy themselves” – John Knowles

the art of self war

At times, it seems as though we have our own strategies and tactics set in place to go to combat with ourselves. We knowingly choose the wrong foods and ignore all of the red flags that lead us in to unhealthy relationships.

In addition, we often remain in undesirable work situations and self sabotage ourselves by making decisions that are not in our own best interest.

Why do we do this? We hear our intuition speaking, but ignore it and do what we shouldn’t anyways. We deliberately hinder ourselves as if we don’t believe that we can do better. We hear that inner voice saying, don’t do it, but do it anyways.

Then after we fail to listen to ourselves, we beat ourselves up and say that we knew we shouldn’t have done what ever it was we did.

Is it possible to stop this toxic self behavior? Is it possible to stop shooting cannons at ourselves?

 

your own worst enemy

 

I feel as though I was influenced to adopt the unhealthy thinking of being my own worst enemy. It was first introduced to me by my mother. I’m not going to make her feel bad about it, but what if she were to have told me to love myself and embrace who I was instead of telling me I was my own worst enemy?

For years, I told myself that I was my own worst enemy and so many other people confirmed it. In my head, everyone was their own worst enemy. How has this truly affected us all?

If I identified with being my own enemy, no wonder why it’s so easy to self-sabotage myself. Being my own worst enemy is now my excuse for it and now I have justification for emotionally harming myself.

In a world where everyone is seeking happiness, It’s time to end the war! No more World War Me. If you procrastinate, indulge in activities and substances that harm yourself or do things that hold you back from being your best self, you could be at war with yourself.

Failure and letting yourself down doesn’t feel good. It’s time to build yourself up and become your own best friend to win the war! It’s time to start making small incremental steps towards conquering the madness. 

Put self discipline measures in place that prevent you from picking up the cannon! The first thing you need to do is change the way you think! You can no longer afford to be your own worst enemy!

train your inner coach

It wasn’t until I started playing amateur pool when I realized how I was causing my own self to fail. I learned that not only did I fail to listen to myself, but I was also setting myself up to fail.

Whenever it was my turn to shoot, the voice inside my head already told me that I wasn’t going to win and for various different reasons. I wasn’t that good, the other person was better or the shot on the table was too hard.

I started paying attention to what my inner voice was saying and the more I became aware, the more I began changing the script. It took me some time to realize it, but every time I spoke negative to myself, I lost.

I decided I needed to change my inner conversation and instead, become my own self coach. I started telling myself I was going to win and my game improved tremendously. At one point, my team captain even asked me to please stop beating everyone. 

It’s never too late to gain control of your self and learn how to unlearn unhealthy behaviors and below, I have listed a few tips that will help you reverse your toxic self-sabotaging. 

 

 

kira lane

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John Carson

Administrator

Hope Smith

Teacher

Self-awareness

Pay attention to yourself and learn your own behaviors. Listen and identify thought patterns you have that may be holding you back or encouraging you to do things that are not good for you.

Cancel negativity

If you find that you are telling yourself something negative, cancel it out. Remind yourself of all the reasons why you are worth more. Remind yourself that negative thoughts are only going to lead to you self-sabotaging yourself.

Train your inner coach

Work on changing your self talk. Instead of telling yourself that you can’t or won’t accomplish something, tell yourself that you will. The key is to not be so hard on yourself if you don’t accomplish whatever it was you were aiming for. Practice makes perfect, train your coach to remind you to get back up and keep trying instead of telling you that you knew you couldn’t.

 

 

Relentless, repetitive self talk is what changes our self-image.

-Denis Waitley

 

 

 

Kira Lane

Writer

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